What sits under the anger
You don't have to have the words for it yet.
Anger that turns up before you've worked out what you're feeling, or a flatness where something used to be. Somewhere to say the thing you haven't said.
What men usually come in with
Often it's irritability, a shorter fuse than you used to have, and a relationship where someone has finally said something. Sometimes it's the opposite: a flatness where something used to be, and no clear reason for it. Underneath either, there's frequently grief that never had anywhere to go, or a fear that's been managed by staying busy for twenty years.
Nobody here is going to ask you to perform vulnerability. The work is fairly practical. What happens in your body in the seconds before you snap, what the anger is standing in front of, and what changes when that thing has somewhere else to go.
Anger, and what it's protecting
Anger is almost never the first feeling. It's fast, it's protective, and it's much more available than whatever sits behind it. Learning to notice the half-second before it arrives is a technical skill with a real method behind it, and it can be taught.
Fathers, partners, and the people everyone assumes are fine
Work that's taken more than you meant to give it. Becoming a father. A separation and everything that follows it. The particular loneliness of being the person nobody thinks to ask about. All of this is ordinary here, and none of it will be treated as a confession.
Common questions
Before you begin
I've never done this before and it feels strange.
Most men who come here haven't. That's exactly what the free conversation is for, so that the first real session isn't also the first time you've spoken to the person.
Can I see a male counsellor?
Ask at the first conversation and we'll tell you honestly what we have available rather than promising something we can't deliver.
What if I don't know what's wrong?
"Something's off and I can't name it" is a normal place to start and a perfectly workable one. Working out what it is can be the first part of the job.
Ready when you are.
Fifteen minutes, free, no clinical intake. Just a conversation about whether this is the right room for what you're carrying.